My Connection with Mother Lilith

I first heard about Lilith in 2020 while watching The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina on Netflix. At the time, I wasn’t familiar with who she was. Then, in early August 2023, she began appearing on my TikTok feed, often in connection with the theme of dark femininity.

Intrigued but unsure of what dark femininity truly meant, I started researching. Most content I found showcased “femme fatale” makeup looks and ways to attract a man. However, a few videos explained that dark femininity is about standing firm in your boundaries, reclaiming your power, and letting go of external validation. This resonated and I felt a strong pull to embody these qualities. That same month, I went to the nail salon and got red gel-x nails, asking the nail tech to design the Black Moon Lilith astrology symbol on my ring finger. On the other hand, I chose the Mercury astrology symbol to honor Mercury Retrograde.

Did I know what true dark femininity was? No. At the time, I believed I was tapping into something deeper, but in reality, I was only scratching the surface. I began acknowledging Mother Lilith and thanking her for her guidance, but I had not yet built a solid connection with her. Instead, my energy was focused on developing a relationship with Lady Aphrodite, seeking her support in self-love and my love life.

In May 2024, I intentionally began honoring Lilith and asking for her guidance. I offered her gifts, connected through guided meditation, and spoke to her regularly. It was also my 8th house profection year in astrology—a year marked by transformation, death, and rebirth—areas where Mother Lilith’s presence is deeply felt.

By August 2024, Mother Lilith let me know that she had heard my call and was here to stay. She reassured me that all we needed was space and time to begin the work, and once we started, we would be diving deep with the energy of the 8 of Pentacles. That same month, I went through another death cycle—working to release old attachments. I called upon Mother Lilith to support me through this transformative process, turning to shadow work to navigate my emotions. Then, in September, she came through while I was receiving Reiki. I was grateful for the confirmation she was with me. Mother Lilith also assisted me in confronting the grief I had been avoiding.